The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to SLEEPING WITH THREE

Loved this book. Went to a class on this subject at a local toy shop, came home and ordered what I hoped would be the top tome on this #1 fantasy of 90% of married guys. No, all guys. Maybe all women, too.I had a threesome a decade back in a chiropractors office--two massage therapists working on me. Heaven. Yes, that one was not overtly sexual but for me any touch is sexual. The good doctor here--yes, she has our PhD in the history of sexuality from USC--does well with personal tales, words and structure, quotes and diagrams. Yes, those. All this is no small feat from a credentialed academic. This author has field tested what she writes about, too, and the authenticity rings through.I was impressed with her soulful writing and her overall skill with words and maturity as a human being. Yet this book reads like a bodice ripper and is in no wise academic. But it is. And helpful. She goes into just about every question a newbie might askIn the workshop I mentioned on this topic, by Reid Mihalko's, he noted a senior couple who attended a prior class, said in his 2 hr talk on negotiating three ways, that they as a Traditional married couple didn't want to have one, they just wanted to know they could have. Yes. If you are a happily married couple, read this book for that reason alone.

So I got the book because of who wrote it and all the really good reviews. I am about half way thru it. It is really interesting and she has quite a easy going funny style. I warned my husband before it came, that I just wanted to read it for a lark. He was hysterical when he saw the book! “Handbook?!?!?! What the hell? I thought it was going to be a kinky romance novel!” LOLEnjoy, and if this is your thing, it seems like good advice for the pursuit of these types of recreational relationships or activities. Actually it has quite good relationship advice to apply in any relationship.

When I heard that Misha Collins's wife literally wrote the handbook on threesomes, I had to check it out for pure curiosity and fangirl's sake. Sadly, my adventures in that realm are purely academic/vicarious...but I did get some tips on how to try to get my husband on board, plus good reminders not to push or wheedle.I'm a polyamorist at heart despite being in a monogamous marriage, so perhaps this is preaching to the choir in my case. I liked the book. Mostly. She covers ideas like introducing the idea to one's partner, dating strategies, communication techniques, self-awareness, safer sex, deepening relationships and how to manage those (not just sex!), embracing or exploring one's gayness or bisexuality, coming out as 'trisexual', and even a position guide and an appendix with further resources. The book is very thorough.It has a friendly, conversational vibe, though she does get a bit twee for my tastes. If I never see the word “schtooping” again, I will die happy regardless of whether I ever actually get my threesome on. There are also quite a few typos that really should have been caught on edit, but otherwise it's a really great resource and interesting read.

Interesting read. Very good guide on how to expand your horizons with your significant other. Many tips and suggested ground rules for making your twosome a threesome. Regardless, if you are looking for a playmate or a long term third this guide has plenty of information to cover all aspects including the pros and cons of playmates and thirds. In order for successful "swinging" you and your mate must be in a very good relationship without any hints of jealousy before even considering this book as your personal how-to. Vicki did a phenomenal job in her research and dove deep into answering some of the most "embarrassing" questions for starters to ask. There are even diagrams for certain positions that are suggested to ensure that you nail it on the first try. Don't be shy- have your mind piqued and probed as you and you mate discuss your fantasies!

Funny, sincere, and unflinchingly honest. As a bisexual woman it is really endearing to find an author that adds us into the equation effortlessly without giving into stereotypes. It's a surprisingly quick read and you definitely take away more than just some kick ass positions to try...though those are in here too and they're wonderful. If you're curious or new to the world of threesomes, it's worth picking up. If this all is old hat to you by now, it has insights worth hearing. I enjoyed it immensely.

I read this book years ago when it first came out and still enjoy it very much. There are a few points that have not aged well, mostly tech related items that evolve a lot over a few short years, but in general a lot of the analogue information is very helpful and the supportive mindset is very welcome. Plus, there are many genuinely funny moments that still make me laugh out loud. I would highly recommend if you are curious about the lifestyle or if you are already experienced, but would like some further encouragement and support from an openminded writer.

It gives me a look in the minds of people I didn't know existed around me, that are like me. You don't realize some of your thoughts are quite common until you can read it off the page from another

Devoid of significant insight, and, remarkably, so boring I didn't bother to read it through, despite the subject matter.

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This is a great guide for all tricurious people.It includes not only practical sex-tips, but also advices for a successful choice of partner, start and after-management of a threesome relationship.So I think everyone is well adviced with this book and could experience the joy of threesomes in a much easier way.

One of the best book I have ever read.I mean, I am a quite young - only 18 years old - and straight, italian girl but Victoria Vantoch has this awesome ability of... well, explain everything with humor and brilliant verve to whoever just wants to... well, learn!She is amazing, her writing is funny and captivating, and I think the most important thing of this book is that she does not impose her opinion on the reader. She in fact just proposes and offers the instruments to make you create your own opinion of your own sexuality.She also describes her personal experiences with polyamory, which, I think, it helps a lot, because it makes everything more real, more possible and a lot more interesting.I suggest this book to whoever wants to read an amazing work about great sex and every kind of relationships. You do not have to be straight, lesbian, gay or bicurious or whatever you want to label yourself (actually the author Victoria Vantoch is really against any labels, and as far as I am concerned I am too). It has a lot of tips for whatever you want to do in bed and whatever you want to do it with.This is an incredible work, by an extraordinary woman. READ IT!

A very interesting book. The topic is not a simple one, but Vantoch manage to explain everything with so much naturalness. I highly recommend it.

If you want to spice up your sex-life or want to know how to confront your partner about threesomes, this book is the way to go.There are at least a few pages about every thought, worry etc. i had about threesomes. Very grounded, easy to read and even tells stories of succesfull and failed experiences + what to improve.The only thing that bothers me is that Vantoch is a bit too positive about it. There are a few paragraphs which show that she is biased and she ignores minor (but obvious) problems.If you're interested in threesomes, this book is most likely one of the best you could read. But read it with a grain of salt.